Celebrating courage and authenticity: National Coming Out Day

Tomorrow is National Coming Out Day. Recognised every year on 11 October, individuals across the globe come together to observe this powerful reminder of the courage it takes to live openly and authentically. The day honours those who have embraced their true selves and advocates for a world where everyone feels safe to share their identity without fear or judgment.

Coming out is a deeply personal journey that varies for each individual. For many, it’s a moment of liberation, a step towards embracing their authentic self. For others, it may be filled with uncertainty, fear, and vulnerability. Despite the challenges, the act of coming out can foster greater self-acceptance and pave the way for greater understanding and acceptance in society. 

Leading by example and sharing his own story is Tony Foster, chair of Spectrum, our LGBTQ+ & Friends employee-led network:

“Back in the mid-90s, I volunteered with the Dorset Lesbian and Gay Switchboard, offering a compassionate ear and advice to anyone who reached out. You might be wondering why this kind of service existed, but remember, this was almost 30 years ago, and we lived in a time when being openly gay likely meant you would face discrimination, stigma and violence from complete strangers and/or your own family, friends and colleagues.

“It was a deeply meaningful role for me, and one that led to an unexpected opportunity. I was invited to be interviewed for BBC Countryfile as part of a segment exploring the challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals living in rural communities.

“I was proud to participate, but there was a slight complication – I hadn’t yet come out at work! Having only been with my employer for about a year, I didn’t feel comfortable to be my true authentic self yet for fear of what it would mean for my career and how others might treat me. However, I decided to speak with my manager and share my story.

“Her response was incredibly supportive, assuring me that she’d stand by me and help navigate any fallout. Fortunately, Countryfile aired during a quiet Sunday morning slot back then, so the episode flew under the radar of almost everyone at work – except for my manager, who watched it eagerly and continued to offer her support.

“Over the following months, I decided to come out to my team. While unfortunately one colleague reacted negatively, the rest of the team quickly stepped in to challenge that behaviour and show their support. That moment marked a turning point for me. Since then, I’ve embraced being my full, authentic self at work. It’s opened doors to incredible opportunities – including meeting my husband at a work-sponsored diversity conference!

No longer needing to hide behind small untruths, I’ve been able to focus fully on my work and build genuine connections with those around me.”

Thank you Tony for sharing your story.

Whether you’re out or still in the process, your journey matters, and your authenticity enriches the diversity and richness of our communities. This National Coming Out Day, let’s celebrate the bravery of those who have come out already, paving the way for others, and recognise the importance of creating inclusive spaces where everyone feels safe to share their stories too.